This is a letter to my clients and anyone else who needs to hear this right now.
This has got to stop. How much longer are you going to put up with those toxic behaviours of yours? The horrible name calling you do every time you see yourself naked or in clothes that you think don’t "suit you". When will you stop pepping up those around you but talk yourself out of a promotion, an experience or a special purchase that is solely for you? At what point is enough, enough? How low and how hard do you need to be on yourself for you to realise somethings gotta give?
Who made you believe these lies you are telling yourself about yourself? Was it someone you once loved? Was it someone you once or perhaps still trust? Or was it an accumulation of people, conversations and experience that has led you to this seriously false story you have made up about yourself? Can you even remember?
As my eyes prickle with the threat of tears and I try and get rid of the lump forming in my throat, the faces are now flashing through my mind and only gaining momentum and increasing in numbers of who I am thinking about as I write this.
I have to remind you all that you are not alone and an open and honest conversation with someone you trust can go a long way. Someone who won’t jump in and tell you, you are being silly and someone who won’t immediately pep you up by blowing smoke up your….but someone who will simply lend an ear and un-judgemental advice or perhaps, simply some nods of recognition & understanding. It is so easy to rush in and console our friends with words but sometimes they just need to speak.
A conversation needs to start. Yes, after the age of 30 we do tend to lose muscle and gain fat/weight. That is the natural process of our bodies as we get older and it is frustrating and it does feel like you are losing yourself a little or even a lot. Just because we are changing physically doesn’t mean we are losing our identity because we are not our looks, we are not our career and we are not defined by the roles we play in life. Instead we are who we are by the words we speak, the thoughts we think and the actions we take.
If something is bothering you in terms of your physical health my advice is this, reach out to a professional for help once again someone you trust and have similar values and morals.
If something is bothering you with your mental health, same advice applies. Reach out to a professional who you trust or perhaps a friend or family member trusts or recommends. Do your research and see if your values align.
When you have achieved the above then with some clarity and professional advice you can start to work on turning your emotional health around. This is done through consistent effort, day in and day out. No matter how low you feel you are always willing to show up and change the negative narrative you have in your head about yourself. That 24hr Instagram reel that never stops. You stay consistent because you are feeling healthier physically and stronger mentally.
Remember my love, from one good feeling comes another good decision. We just want to create some momentum so you can start to believe in yourself just like you believe in everyone around you.
When that day comes, that is not the day you can stop and kick back. You keep moving forward. Whether it is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual you never stop working on improving your state of being. Because just like a famous beauty brand once stated, you are worth it. Oh my darling you are so worth it. I am sure you can’t see that now but you will. The more you work on improving your state of being the clearer it will be for you to see what I see within you.
Somethings gotta give and this is it. It is time. Enough is enough.
Love always,
The person who sent this to you xx
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